You are....

You, are many things. Some people may call you, dumb, some people may call you fat. Some may even call you outside of your name like a hoe. But, you are not what they call you. You are you, and that is awesome! and keep on being you. So many people do not know how to be theirs selves, that it is not even funny. They do not want to be judged or teased for the way they dress, or look. Yet, who cares what they think of you, that is their opinion, not a fact. 

You, are someone who is capable of doing something good with your life. Do not ever let anyone tell you, you will never amount to anything in life, because they are jealous and insecure because they have no goals they want to reach, they are just living, but just living, is not the way to live. To just live, is telling someone to just throw that foot ball, to just eat that sandwich. To just do something without having anything to look forward to is not something you want out of life. 

You, are whoever you want to be in life. If you let bullies get in the way of how you live, and how you see yourself, you will not have happiness in life, it is just that simple. Nothing can bring you up because you are letting others get inside of your mind, and dictate how you are feeling. They are someone like you. They hurt like you, they cry like you, so how are you going to let them take control of your life?

Think about that, for yourself. Keep this in mind. So next time when someone has something rude to say. Just look the other way, and know that you are the better person. and know that you will become someone in life. 


JUST KNOW WHO YOU ARE! 

Lights, Camera, Action!

Hey guys and girls, I am back! I will be doing a show on you tube, next month some time after I get done taking my tests to get to 11th grade. I will basically be discussing bullying.. of course! and some new strategies that I know will work for you. Yet, in the mean time, I will keep posting new posts weekly for everyone to see. Look below, because here are some main things, that will be discussed: 

1. What should you do, when you are being bullied? 
2. How do I know if I am being bullied? 
3. Tips and advice to cope with bullying
4. Peer pressure, and what is it? 
5. Cyber-bullying. 

Yet, do not worry, because I will not discuss all of these topics in one session. Each session will only talk about one topic. and the videos will be created once a week. So bring a pen and a pencil. When the day grows closer, I will input the links, for you to watch it. and once I grow my audience they will become live!! 

I have a good feeling that I can actually do something to help make a change. You know how some people say, go with your gut feeling? Well that is what I am doing, and I love my gut! lol :- I love you, and always keep your head up high! 

Support

I recently made a comment on you tube, about a girl who was being physically abused, bullied. And I was horrified. So look below, and see the posts that I created. 

I am creating a website for people who are being bullied, and this video is going on my website. For people who are wanting to become suicidal. Its not fun to be bullied, because I was before, and I seen others being bullied, and it needs to stop, and I am on a journey to make sure it does. GIVE ME A THUMBS UP IF I HAVE YOUR SUPPORT!

ashanti muhammad 21 hours ago 16 

Then shortly after I made that comment, look what came up. 

I was bullied in high school about 5 yrs ago.. I was physically bullied and verbally assaulted and I dropped out of high school b/c of it.. I am now taking classes at Ashworth and James Madison High School at the age of 21 just to put my life back together that they broke.. I have 2 kids and 1 of which is epileptic and suffers from seizures.. I am still mentally at a point where I hate the human race and it's only getting worse, people are only getting worse..

Xxremedi2414xX in reply to ashanti muhammad (Show the comment) 21 hours ago

Wow! I am so sorry that has happened to you. I wish I would of known you before you left HS, because I would of just said to stay strong. Your life is important and other people do not have the right to dictate your future. And I am terribly sorry that one of your kids suffers from seizures. My younger sister use to when she was younger, but now she does not anymore. Do not hate the human race. Just know that people are really corrupted. And you should live your life to the fullest.

ashanti muhammad in reply to Xxremedi2414xX (Show the comment) 19 minutes ago

just know that this world is not easy. And that there will be many obstacles coming your way, and you need to be strong no matter what, because in the end everything will pay off. God bless you :)

ashanti muhammad in reply to Xxremedi2414xX (Show the comment) 18 minutes ago

You can view the video, and you can also give me a thumbs up on my comment! My you tube name is Ashanti Muhammad. Subscribe to my channel, and I just want to know if I have your support. 

Here is the link, if you want to go and view the comment that I made :P

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jexv1LMmSqY

Bullying is not an excuse

In today's society  bullying is coming off as an excuse for kids are going to be kids. So why are kids committing suicide? Something needs to be done as soon as possible. The school's claim that they have a strict policy on bullying. But if they did, then why are so many students complaining that there is still bullying going on in the school?

The school's are not doing anything at all. What they need to do is pin point the bullies in the classrooms, and get them out of there, and isolate them away from everyone who cares about their future. What is it going to take for someone to realize that bullying is no joke? Till someone dies, or gets severely injured? We need to think smarter about this and come up with some solutions that can help everyone. 

If it was one of your loved ones who was terrified to go to school because someone was going to tease them, you would do everything in your power to make sure they can go to school, and feel safe. The question is, what are you going to do?

Bullies need help as well!

If you are someone who is a bully. Or as I should say, someone who hurts others  intentionally because either you have insecurities that you can not get over, or home issues you need help with,  i am here to support you as well. I know you are wondering why i want to help someone that is being rude to people. But the truth is, I have hope in you, that you will one day, stop what you are doing, and showing the world who you truly are.

We all have a story, no matter what our background is. You can not keep holding all of your anger inside because it causes stress. I care, and I can't stress that enough. You have a bright future, and I know that if you trust me, I will be a friend, sister , teacher and your guide, as long as you will give me the chance to help you.

Visit my contact page for my email to contact me directly. None of your information will be sold. or looked at other than me. I promise. You are special, and you are unique, and it is time to stop living behind shadows, but starting living like the sun!

Taking Advantage of the situation

Have you ever been hurt so badly, your emotions can't even express how upset you are? Bullying can do that to you. I use to cry to myself, because I was desperate for help. Anybody, that was willing to help me, I would take it! That is what you have to do in life. I am here trying to help you, but you are not taking advantage of the situation. I can only preach so much to you, but then it is your decision whether or not you are going to take it.

You don't find too many teens, wanting to help others with their own situations. Or teens that cares so much about you, that they worry for you, hoping you are not doing anything to hurt your self. Life is too short to waists it on the bad stuff. But, to get out in the world and to start living. Bullying is tough, I know, but together we can help decrease it tremendously. Doesn't that sound like a plan?

Tell me what you think....

1. Do you think we can actually demolish bullying?
2. Are you taking advantage of the situation?

I was in your shoes before, and trust me, i know what you are feeling. But look at me now! I am happy inside and out, I am helping others in the best way as I can. And I know for sure, that you are going to be bully free. 

Bully Victims Life

When someone bullies you, its like you are dragging the whole world on your shoulders. Its too much pressure to take in at once, and you want to release the pressure. Yet, your mind throws irrational suggestions that make you consider committing suicide. Suicide is another way of telling the world that you are weak. You are letting down people who want to see you succeed. There are kids out there who have no place to live. They have no water to drink nor food to eat, and you are killing yourself over a irresponsible selfish person who is trying to make your life feel like crap. They have not killed their self because their is still hope for them. I have been bullied, but not once have I felt suicide would answer my prayers.

What is it going to help? your dead. Gone. and you couldn't of been strong enough to hold out another day. You are strong, you are wanting to get help, your heart is aching because you are being hurt or threatened everyday. I am terribly sorry, but you have got to start helping yourself is you want help from someone else. This may be hard to understand, but you are as strong as your weakest link. I am so scared for life, because no one knows when someone has had enough unless you speak up. People in the world are advertising bullying and trying to help, but why not let people help you? your scared. Gosh! everyone is scared. Even I am scared, because I feel like I let you down, if you commit suicide. I want you to be happy and bright. You have a bright future ahead of you. Its time you take advantage of it.

This is a video that I have personally made to persuade you even more to contact me! and plus, you will see who you will be chatting to. So please take this into consideration.  It took me a very long time to complete, and I would appreciate your comments and feedback! you may contact me here, or on Stop Bullying Me Academy's official email. You will find that in  the video. ENJOY!!

                                                          HACKER



SOMEONE RECENTLY HACKED MY BLOG ACCOUNT. IF YOU ARE READING MY BLOG AND FIND SOMETHING OUT OF THE ORDINARY THAT IS WHY. YOU MAY ALSO REPORT TO ME. FOR WHO EVER HACKED MY ACCOUNT I DO NOT APPRECIATE IT. YOU SHOULD NOT MESS WITH SOMEONES BLOG THAT IS OUT TRYING TO HELP OTHERS WITH BULLYING. YOU SHOULD FEEL ASHAMED. I HAVE CHANGED MY PASSSWORD SO GOOD  LUCK TRYING TO GET IN!

                                BACK TO SCHOOL

Summer is over and your excited to be back in school chilling with your best buds! However, there is one problem. You are afraid of what people are going to think of you. or what they are going to say. Who cares? as long as you know you look great and you feel great, whoever says rude things to you, really should take a look in the mirror. I know i cant see you, but you are beautiful! just because school has started back, doesn't mean the bullies do as well. it is a new fresh year of school. I know i wont be able to prevent bullying from happening to you, but I will always be there helping you stay strong, and being true to yourself.

I want you to do this fun activity I created. Here the thing though. It will be a little wacko, but you are doing it for yourself! Follow the rules below. You can even record yourself and play the tape back whenever you are feeling down.  Its time you start being yourself. Who cares what people think. YOU ARE AWESOME!!!!




RULES:

1. Go into your bathroom, close and lock the door

2. Find a hairbrush or something you can use to speak to like a mic

3. Repeat the chant below

    I am me
  you are you
I am beautiful (girl)
I am handome (guy)
I am me
you are you
I am beautiful(girl)
I am handsome ( guy 

4. Say this 3 times and you will feel so much better about your self! I promise you :)
       

If you would like to talk to someone discreetly, about your bullying experiences without the fear of anyone finding out. You may feel free to contact me whenever you wish.

stopbullyingmeacademy@yahoo.com

Bullies, Are they as powerful as they seem?
Bullies are not as strong as they seem. They may have a tough shell on the outside, but their scared and selfish on the inside. People will say rude things to your face or behind your back. Just to consistently aggravate or sadden a persons mood is just wrong. Why end your life over someone who has inside issues? You are much smarter and stronger than you think. If you can overcome bullying, you can overcome any obstacle in life. Like me for a example. People said rude, unruly comments all the time. I broke both of my legs in a school soccer game, and guess what? people still said rude and unruly comments. That goes to show you, people, have no sympathy for others.

People say the world is man for itself. Which in my opinion is not correct. There are people out here trying to make a difference in life. Like I am. It will be a long process, but it will be worth it in the end. Seeing someone smile, because they are not being bullied anymore. Or to hear people say that you encouraged them to not give up is ten times better than anything. Knowing you made a impact on someones life, brings me the greatest joy.

I know bullying is hard. Trust me I do., Some days you just want to give up because you don't  think you can go through any longer. But you can, you are a bright young adult and you can pull through anything in life, as long as you are willing to do whatever it takes. So stop thinking about committing suicide, or harming yourself in no way. Think before you do it. Say to yourself, is this bully really that much powerful over me where I feel I need to hurt myself?

Be who you are. You will enjoy nothing in life as much, if you are not true to yourself, and the others around you.

For those who read my blog you know that I talk about you not giving up in life and facing your fears. I still can not stress enough. Recently at my online home school I signed up so I could have my very own club. I prayed and prayed every night to go and today, I was accepted. My club  will be starting next month! You are capable of accomplishing anything in life. NOTHING is impossible when you are dedicated to reaching that goal.

 When you are wanting something so bad, you will do whatever it takes to reach your goal.
I don't care who you are or whats your background. Anyone can be whatever they want in life. Look at Tyler Perry. He was homeless living on the streets. Now he is one of the richest people in the world living their dream.




Believing in your self is the greatest task you can complete

Tell me this? what makes you feel like you are not able to reach something in life? people tell you, you are not smart enough? Let me guess, they said  it is IMPOSSIBLE?  Do not dare listen to what others say about you. The hardest task for a person to do in their life is to be yourself. Its hard because when you have people all around you doubting your skills and talents, you began to believe them. That is why some  people do not make it in life. Either they are doubted, or just gave up on everything they had. I do not want that to be you,

I do not personally know you, but I know that you have something in your heart that you love to do. Everyone has something they love. You need a little help getting you started. Leave me a comment or private message me by email. You can find my email in contacts page. You have a bright future I  can feel it.

Like Justin Beiber would say: " Never Say Never"

Believe in yourself

Do you have a dream that you want to fulfill but seems as if people doubt you? "Don't worry. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, that is why you have to stand a little taller".(Kelly Clarkson)   Day in and out people will feel that if they do not have the chance or a gift like you portray, they have to bring you down. If they are not able to have a future why should you? Do not let anyone tell you , you are not capable of making something of yourself. like the saying goes, "sticks and stones may brake my bones, but words will never hurt me."  So many kids in life can only dream of being someone or having luxurious accessories. The only way you can have your needs and your wants is to work hard in life.

If you ever seen the Disney movie Princess and the frog you will know exactly what I am talking about. Tiana was a young lady who worked in a caf'e. She dreamt morning and night of the day she can open the restaurant her daddy only had the chance to dream about. She too went through lots of obstacles in the movie. Like, being turned into a frog, trying to escape hunters who wanted her for dinner, and trying to find a way to turn human again. You see, Tiana dreamt a dream. She also was doubted by many people in the movie like the two brothers who owned the business, and her boss at the cafe. Yet, she put up a fight and finally received her resturant.

Life is no good if you have things tossed to you all the time. Of course as a teenager you try to get your hands on every electronic item your parent will allow you to have. Although, you wont enjoy and Cherish that new Ipad if you did not work your butt of for it. If you believe in your heart and mind that you can succeed. Then NO ONE can tell you otherwise.

Special Message

Hello everyone this is a special message from Stop Bullying Me Academy! Today I have recieved some incredible post, And I love you guys for it. You guys keep me inspired to keep writing. Thank you all for reading my blog. I really appreciate you for supporting me over these few weeks.

Teenagers and our lives

There is always a time in our lives where we want to feel safe. We want to know that someone really cares and loves us as human beings. As teenagers we of course tend to do stupid things. Yet, we still want to be loved. Have you ever heard of the term peer pressure? lots of teens go through this in their lives. Whether you are being pressured to try a new drug that all your friends are doing, or just something that is out of your comfort zone. Everyone has a story. You hear your friends or other teenagers talking about sex and how good it is. Teens try to make sex seem  as if it is okay to try it. Well it is not. You may be pressured into experiencing sex for the first time. For both male and female.

Did you know that peer pressure is also another form of bullying? In my high school that I used to attend, you would see kids all over each other. Kissing in front of adults. Cussing with confidence and strutting their way across the campus with pregnant bellies. Where is the fun in that? It is so hard to try to keep your self motivated from sinking into peer pressure because so many people try to make you do things you don't like. Our teachers and our schools lecture us abut bullying and sex and peer pressure. However, it made no affect.Kids still sleep around, get pregnant sink into peer pressure.

What is the point of telling someone the downfalls of what they do, if they are not going to take it into consideration? That is why teens should tell teens. Let a friend know what they are doing is wrong. That you only care for their safety and their well being, like I care for yours. Teenagers set example for the younger generation. If they see us engaging in  inappropriate activity, they are going to follow into our footsteps. Bullying takes a big part out of our lives that keeps us from growing as humans. If we can help decrease the bullying and increase the positive things in life, we will have a stronger bond.

Why not take a chance in life  to do something good. Do something that will inspire someone else. Do something that will put a smile on other kids. Do something that will promote outstanding behavior. Once you start doing something good, people will follow behind you. Be a leader! post a comment of what you feel should be done.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=89iFQwaSZSU

Help is near

Do you need someone to talk to? Do you need someone that will listen and understand who you really are? I am here for you. I try my absolute best to communicate with others who are suffering from bullying. I am another teenager who suffered from being bullied.I create blogs to be able to express myself and to help others. To be able to get the message out to many other youths.

Please trust me. I will keep all of your information private. You may even make up a fake name if you want.I believe in you . I want you to have a better and promising future.

ashanti.muhammad15@hotmail.com

A personal Story

 People will say nasty things to your face or behind your back. It just depends on the person. Not all will like you ,not all will be interested in what you have to say. That is why I chose to create a blog about bullying. It seems as if you are so deep into the drama of bullying, that you forgotten who you are. You forget all of the great tasks you have accomplished before the bully came into your life. You forgot that the person who is bullying you, will only make you stronger. Yes!, that sounds incredibly weird. But its true. Why would someone bully you if there was nothing good about you? understand? I mean, yeah it hurts your feelings or makes you wanna cry! but, nobody will talk about you unless you have something going good with yourself.

Well from kindergarten to ninth grade I attended public school. Can you guess what happened during those years? OF COURSE! I was bullied all the time. Okay, some days it was so tough I cried to myself and prayed to god to help me. The only thing that really helped me was to stand up to my bully. You see, someone only bullies you cause your something they are not, and they want it. BAD! put them in their place. Tell them Hey! leave me alone. I know its so hard because usually it will end up  in physical activity. Its worth a shot. Anyways, I had a friend. She was my best friend in school. We use to tell each other everything. However one day when I left for a short period of time and came back. She and my other so called friend Jasmine tried to jump me at school. It was the worst experience because you go from having this awesome friend to someone who is wanting to hurt you physically for a reason you are not sure of. So please make sure you know and trust that person fully.

Suicidal Moments

As you know bullying is pretty serious. But the public is not taking it as serious as they should be. Every day someone is committing suicide because another person is bullying them. If you are not certain what the official definition is I will tell you. "It is to use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone) typically to force him or her to do what one wants". Know that you know what bullying officially is we can move on.

Throughout the years kids of all ages, specifically teenagers have been committing suicide, or, are being murdered by someone who was bullying them. The next thing that you need to read to really get you thinking about bullying is stories of kids who killed themselves. Please pay attention to the stories of Megan Taylor Meier and Jack Reese.

Jack Reese, Gay Utah Teen, Commits Suicide After Allegedly Being ...

Suicide of Megan Meier - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia


Other teenagers who have committed suicide

Jay 'Corey' Jones, Gay Minnesota Teen, Commits Suicide After ...

Bullied Teen Commits Suicide After Posting That She Loves Her ...

Teen committed suicide after being bullied at school, family says ...

This is your time to really grasp the moment and remember these kids. Remember they were being bullied and nobody saved them. Nobody understood what they were going through. Please contact me with any of your problems. I would hate to see you on google as the next kid who committed suicide.

 

Coping

1. Be confident. Bullies hate when people are confident about themselves
2. Laugh it off. Bullies hate when you don't take them seriously
3. Ignore. If you ignore the bully he/she may leave you alone
4. Agree. If a bully calls you a name agree with them.

a. Bully: You look ugly in that outfit

b: You: Well, i thought i looked good in it

a. Bully: I do not like you 

b: HA HA your are so funny

 a. Bully: What are you wearing today nerd?

 b. You: ..........

a.Bully: You look like a man

b: I know right!

Follow the link below to watch a short clip on how to " cope with bullying"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=t-ULl1yhzeA

Animated Websites For Bullying

     

        http://www.wiredsafety.org/flashandvideo/Panda-StopBlockTell.swf                  

http://www.wiredsafety.org/flashandvideo/Artemus-NastyMessage.swf

http://www.wiredsafety.org/flashandvideo/Panda-dontlistentobullies.swf   

Please enjoy these short animated clips of pandas helping you with your bulling issues!

        



The truth about bullying 

                                                                      

How many deaths is it going to take for people to realize that bullying has got to end? Between fourth and eighth grade 90% of students are hostages of bullying. When you think of a bully you think of someone who is rude. Someone who has the ability to pick on others which makes him feel on top of the world. As the myth goes on, he is very rare. Sadly to say, bullying someone can make you very popular. Researchers feel that bullying should not be handled as the part of growing up. I don’t blame them; it is time to put an end to bullying once and for all.

Yet, here is the question. Why would someone waste their time picking on others? Uninvolved parents tend to make the bully feel like they are not loved. Aggression in the family is another result of bullying. If your parent or parents hurt you in any physically way, bullies feel they need to injure others so they too can feel what the bully felt when they were being hurt. Bullying is more likely to happen in schools that do not stress the rules enough. Although certain schools do stress the rules, it seems as if the message is not getting across to everyone very clearly.

Oh, how many times I have heard “Not my daughter.” “Not my son”. The truth is, 50 % percent of the time it is your daughter, it is your son. You just choose not to believe your kid can be capable of bullying another kid so you just ignore the situation. Not to mention, some parents even encourage their kids to bully. For that matter, I am not even sure why parents do that. People need to start paying attention because too many youths are dying in today’s society from being bullied. One of 10 students even drops out of school because they are bullied.

In ninth grade I had a girl who used to bully me. She was taller, thicker, and way immature. She only messed me with me because I was pretty and I was something that she could never amount to be. One day as I was exiting from the Freshman Center she was being approached by a junior or a senior I believe. She kept her head down low and said not a word to the girl. That shows you how bullies only torment the ones who are not going to do anything to them. You will not even believe what happens next.

Young girl being bullied at school